This is a memoir of loss and longing. It is a memoir that is all too common sadly among mother and daughter relationships. It is one of the most complex dynamics in families.
The cover grabbed my attention right away. It is a photograph of a little girl standing along a highway with a sunrise or sunset in the background. It is breathtaking and it captures the themes of the memoir perfectly.
What little girl doesn’t want to be loved by her mother?! Yet, this little girl was not loved or wanted by her mother. Her only confidant and person who really cared for her was her father, and he died in a tragic turn of events.
Tragedy does come to all of us in different ways and for some more than others. However, some tragedies are hard to bare and even comprehend. How can a mother not love her own daughter? How can a mother not want to have anything to do with her own daughter?
It is only a mother who has a lot of deep and dark issues herself. It is a mother who probably never was cared for herself in her own childhood. But this doesn’t excuse what happened to Terri-Lynn. It does explain it.
Terri-Lynn is from Newfoundland. Given all that she endured there during her childhood and early adulthood, she decided to leave Newfoundland and move west to Stratford. Her writing is transformative and I know it will move many readers to tears. It certainly did me.
It made me assess and reflect on my own relationship with my mother which was also less than ideal. But it was nothing like Terri-Lynn’s.
Thank you for this honest and raw story of your life Terri-Lynn. You are an amazing person!